I agree that acting on this desire would often be sub-optimal, but I’m not advocating acting on it. I’m saying that it’s there, and it’s good to acknowledge, and honestly I think it’s good that it’s there even if it is sub-optimal in many parts of the modern world.
I don’t know. I just can’t see revenge being motivating to me. Even If someone killed my son, and I thought of violence out of revenge, I doubt that I would consider it long; it wouldn’t bring him back.
Love may be a willingness to go to extreme lengths for their benefit. I’m willing to endure violence, and defend with minimal violence. I’ve been in at least one situation l where I needed to defend a loved one. It’s the only fight I’ve experienced in my adult life.
A family member of mine was being abused and I stepped in and diverted his attention. He came at me, and I grappled with him. I defended myself, but I didn’t want to harm him; I wanted to keep her and myself out of harms way.
You could say, “Yes, but you’d think about it,” but in my experience it would be like the kind of thought like when driving in a two-way road, I might sometimes think, “I could just turn a little bit, and we’d all be dead.” I have no intention to actually do it.
Love may come with a willingness to defend someone’s life and wellbeing as oneself, but I think it is a category error to say that a willingness to do violence is a requirement of love.
Yes i understand this primal urge for violence and revenge that you say should be tied to love for it to be real love, i agree its valid. However, i believe its overlooking the complexity of it. For example, life experience and personality. Some people will just focus on doing what their loved one thats no longer with them would’ve wanted, others have trust in the laws and justice system, others are fully aware of how pointless it would all be.
I think your point stands in the sense that willing to do violonece and seek revenge is a big component of love, its expression and how powerful it is, i just disagree with your statement that love IS a willingness to do violence. I think it plays an important part in what love is, sure, but love is much more than that, and its way more complex.
I agree that acting on this desire would often be sub-optimal, but I’m not advocating acting on it. I’m saying that it’s there, and it’s good to acknowledge, and honestly I think it’s good that it’s there even if it is sub-optimal in many parts of the modern world.
I don’t know. I just can’t see revenge being motivating to me. Even If someone killed my son, and I thought of violence out of revenge, I doubt that I would consider it long; it wouldn’t bring him back.
Love may be a willingness to go to extreme lengths for their benefit. I’m willing to endure violence, and defend with minimal violence. I’ve been in at least one situation l where I needed to defend a loved one. It’s the only fight I’ve experienced in my adult life.
A family member of mine was being abused and I stepped in and diverted his attention. He came at me, and I grappled with him. I defended myself, but I didn’t want to harm him; I wanted to keep her and myself out of harms way.
You could say, “Yes, but you’d think about it,” but in my experience it would be like the kind of thought like when driving in a two-way road, I might sometimes think, “I could just turn a little bit, and we’d all be dead.” I have no intention to actually do it.
Love may come with a willingness to defend someone’s life and wellbeing as oneself, but I think it is a category error to say that a willingness to do violence is a requirement of love.
Yes i understand this primal urge for violence and revenge that you say should be tied to love for it to be real love, i agree its valid. However, i believe its overlooking the complexity of it. For example, life experience and personality. Some people will just focus on doing what their loved one thats no longer with them would’ve wanted, others have trust in the laws and justice system, others are fully aware of how pointless it would all be.
I think your point stands in the sense that willing to do violonece and seek revenge is a big component of love, its expression and how powerful it is, i just disagree with your statement that love IS a willingness to do violence. I think it plays an important part in what love is, sure, but love is much more than that, and its way more complex.