I know this is LessWrong, and that sexual norms are different in the Bay Area, but for the average person:
Please don’t tell prospective romantic interests that you “went on a date recently” or that you did something promiscuous. The majority of the time, it would be interpreted as a sign you’re taken. Of course, if you elaborate that the date didn’t work out, that’s a different story.
I think that saying you went on a date usually is evidence that you’re not in a monogamous relationship, and if it’s ambiguous it gives the other person an opportunity to say “oh, how did it go?” which gives you an opportunity to subtly clarify that it was a casual date (and so confirm that you’re in the market for casual dating).
I guess “I was alone and masturbated recently” also wouldn’t work well, so… what are the proper words to suggest that I am available? :D
The only thing that comes to my mind, is that if you arrived with a person of the opposite sex, to explicitly mention that they are not your boyfriend/girlfriend.
Hmm.. That’s actually a tough question. As far as I can remember, I’ve rarely had to tell people outright that I’m single.
My recommendation would be to flirt away, and if they don’t casually namedrop a boyfriend or allude to having one, that’s strong enough evidence that they’re not taken.
>The only thing that comes to my mind, is that if you arrived with a person of the opposite sex, to explicitly mention that they are not your boyfriend/girlfriend.
Most tactful way to say as much would be to explicitly call them a “friend”. That should get the message across.
I know this is LessWrong, and that sexual norms are different in the Bay Area, but for the average person:
Please don’t tell prospective romantic interests that you “went on a date recently” or that you did something promiscuous. The majority of the time, it would be interpreted as a sign you’re taken. Of course, if you elaborate that the date didn’t work out, that’s a different story.
I think that saying you went on a date usually is evidence that you’re not in a monogamous relationship, and if it’s ambiguous it gives the other person an opportunity to say “oh, how did it go?” which gives you an opportunity to subtly clarify that it was a casual date (and so confirm that you’re in the market for casual dating).
I guess “I was alone and masturbated recently” also wouldn’t work well, so… what are the proper words to suggest that I am available? :D
The only thing that comes to my mind, is that if you arrived with a person of the opposite sex, to explicitly mention that they are not your boyfriend/girlfriend.
Hmm.. That’s actually a tough question. As far as I can remember, I’ve rarely had to tell people outright that I’m single.
My recommendation would be to flirt away, and if they don’t casually namedrop a boyfriend or allude to having one, that’s strong enough evidence that they’re not taken.
>The only thing that comes to my mind, is that if you arrived with a person of the opposite sex, to explicitly mention that they are not your boyfriend/girlfriend.
Most tactful way to say as much would be to explicitly call them a “friend”. That should get the message across.