Yeah having the right friends to go with is important. I’ve recently finished university so that’s been easier for me than most, but in general I think it’s easier when going to an event with a decent number of people (I play ice hockey and so team/club dinners are a good example). With more people there’s a greater chance of there being a critical mass willing to go.
Aside from that I’ve recently been backpacking around Vietnam, Cambodia and Thailand and I’ve found that being in a hostel makes it incredibly easy to meet people and go out locally. This does require being comfortable in that environment though.
I think that all you really need is one friend who is willing to go with you, and they then become the main point of contact when you want to go.
It’s also possible to go alone, especially in communities like the backpacker community where it’s incredibly easy to meet people. This is generally a lot more sketchy in many places though as you have no backup if you e.g get spiked or drink too much.
Oh I have no problem going clubbing alone, I can have plenty of fun dancing with strangers. The hard part is finding the right club on the right night; AFAICT most of them are dead most nights. How do you solve that problem?
Oof honestly I feel like I mostly just kind of go and find a place with decent music that’s open. I normally find there’s at least one (or maybe my standards are just low), but I’d imagine that in places where that isn’t the case you’d be able to look on the good clubs websites to see when they have events.
I know that in Oxford clubs often have weekly theme nights, such as this one https://www.bridgeoxford.co.uk/wednesday. I’d imagine that a quick browse of your favourite clubs’ websites would give you a good idea of where to go when.
I’ve not done this myself* (my clubbing days were long ago now) but a few approaches:
If you live somewhere where some areas specialize in nightlife—bars, clubs, restaurants and even cool street scene—then just be a tourist there for a bit. You’ll see/find something that seems to fit for you.
Used to be “City Papers” that tended to focus on social life and what was happening during the week/month for people to learn about. So you’d hear about live music or popular DJs and where they were playing.
2a. More current take I assume would be online versions of this.
Social apps that are about meetups (One is called that) but I suspect even FB has something along these lines, which have group you can join or are open to the public that talk about what activities, where and when the get together is occurs. So will specifically state they are NOT about any hookup possibility but other are about meeting others for more than the specific activity (activity is more about the introduction and something to so rather than the whole reason for going).
Last, you might check for any pub crawls going on. Some of the stops will be good clubs to check-out and even sometimes joining the crawl will offer opportunities. Particularly true if you’re good at joining in with some new group of strangers—very good social skills required as the group needs to want you to join.
* Well, I have used Meetups for getting together with others but that was language based for learning and practicing so anyone that seemed more interested in meeting and other activities were discouraged or kicked out if overly obvious.
Yeah having the right friends to go with is important. I’ve recently finished university so that’s been easier for me than most, but in general I think it’s easier when going to an event with a decent number of people (I play ice hockey and so team/club dinners are a good example). With more people there’s a greater chance of there being a critical mass willing to go.
Aside from that I’ve recently been backpacking around Vietnam, Cambodia and Thailand and I’ve found that being in a hostel makes it incredibly easy to meet people and go out locally. This does require being comfortable in that environment though.
I think that all you really need is one friend who is willing to go with you, and they then become the main point of contact when you want to go.
It’s also possible to go alone, especially in communities like the backpacker community where it’s incredibly easy to meet people. This is generally a lot more sketchy in many places though as you have no backup if you e.g get spiked or drink too much.
Oh I have no problem going clubbing alone, I can have plenty of fun dancing with strangers. The hard part is finding the right club on the right night; AFAICT most of them are dead most nights. How do you solve that problem?
Oof honestly I feel like I mostly just kind of go and find a place with decent music that’s open. I normally find there’s at least one (or maybe my standards are just low), but I’d imagine that in places where that isn’t the case you’d be able to look on the good clubs websites to see when they have events.
I know that in Oxford clubs often have weekly theme nights, such as this one https://www.bridgeoxford.co.uk/wednesday. I’d imagine that a quick browse of your favourite clubs’ websites would give you a good idea of where to go when.
I’ve not done this myself* (my clubbing days were long ago now) but a few approaches:
If you live somewhere where some areas specialize in nightlife—bars, clubs, restaurants and even cool street scene—then just be a tourist there for a bit. You’ll see/find something that seems to fit for you.
Used to be “City Papers” that tended to focus on social life and what was happening during the week/month for people to learn about. So you’d hear about live music or popular DJs and where they were playing.
2a. More current take I assume would be online versions of this.
Social apps that are about meetups (One is called that) but I suspect even FB has something along these lines, which have group you can join or are open to the public that talk about what activities, where and when the get together is occurs. So will specifically state they are NOT about any hookup possibility but other are about meeting others for more than the specific activity (activity is more about the introduction and something to so rather than the whole reason for going).
Last, you might check for any pub crawls going on. Some of the stops will be good clubs to check-out and even sometimes joining the crawl will offer opportunities. Particularly true if you’re good at joining in with some new group of strangers—very good social skills required as the group needs to want you to join.
* Well, I have used Meetups for getting together with others but that was language based for learning and practicing so anyone that seemed more interested in meeting and other activities were discouraged or kicked out if overly obvious.