The flip side of this is that people often “decide” that they don’t want to grow stronger at Y because Y seems hard, or isn’t as rewarding to work on, or some such. But if someone forces them to grow stronger at Y, in hindsight they will endorse working at Y rather than X.
… and of course it’s also possible for someone to be wrong when they think that’s what’s going on and try to push their friend/partner accordingly.
Yup, that’s definitely a thing I track.
The flip side of this is that people often “decide” that they don’t want to grow stronger at Y because Y seems hard, or isn’t as rewarding to work on, or some such. But if someone forces them to grow stronger at Y, in hindsight they will endorse working at Y rather than X.
… and of course it’s also possible for someone to be wrong when they think that’s what’s going on and try to push their friend/partner accordingly.