I like the general sound of “growing stronger and better”, but in real life you often have limited resources and competing goals. Like, you could get better at X, or better at Y, but you can’t (with the same time and resources) become equally better both at X and at Y.
Sometimes the problem with people who push you to grow stronger is that they decide to push you to get stronger at X, while you would prefer to get stronger at Y instead. But from their perspective, X simply is better than Y, and you are not doing your best. Ironically, someone who doesn’t insist that you do your best (from their perspective) could be a better partner to help you do your best (from your perspective).
The flip side of this is that people often “decide” that they don’t want to grow stronger at Y because Y seems hard, or isn’t as rewarding to work on, or some such. But if someone forces them to grow stronger at Y, in hindsight they will endorse working at Y rather than X.
… and of course it’s also possible for someone to be wrong when they think that’s what’s going on and try to push their friend/partner accordingly.
Just a random thought:
I like the general sound of “growing stronger and better”, but in real life you often have limited resources and competing goals. Like, you could get better at X, or better at Y, but you can’t (with the same time and resources) become equally better both at X and at Y.
Sometimes the problem with people who push you to grow stronger is that they decide to push you to get stronger at X, while you would prefer to get stronger at Y instead. But from their perspective, X simply is better than Y, and you are not doing your best. Ironically, someone who doesn’t insist that you do your best (from their perspective) could be a better partner to help you do your best (from your perspective).
Yup, that’s definitely a thing I track.
The flip side of this is that people often “decide” that they don’t want to grow stronger at Y because Y seems hard, or isn’t as rewarding to work on, or some such. But if someone forces them to grow stronger at Y, in hindsight they will endorse working at Y rather than X.
… and of course it’s also possible for someone to be wrong when they think that’s what’s going on and try to push their friend/partner accordingly.