Not literally that; the military is not really optimizing for independent agency and competence. They’re optimizing to get people who will follow orders. And I don’t expect the military-style pressure to work well for developing independent agency and competence.
(Actually, I should also flag that what I want from partner isn’t necessarily to be pushed for independent agency and competence; joint agency and competence with them would also work.)
What I’m getting from this is you want a partner who will push you like the military pushes recruits. Is that correct?
Not literally that; the military is not really optimizing for independent agency and competence. They’re optimizing to get people who will follow orders. And I don’t expect the military-style pressure to work well for developing independent agency and competence.
(Actually, I should also flag that what I want from partner isn’t necessarily to be pushed for independent agency and competence; joint agency and competence with them would also work.)