For most people their instincts have far better judgement than whatever abstract ideas they have floating around in their head. It takes a lot of self awareness and rational thinking for “far mode” thinking to be as useful as “near mode” when it comes to actual behaviors.
This somewhat makes sense to me. Note that I still think consent is extremely important; it’s a terrible idea to e.g. sleep with someone who has never let themselves think in far mode that they want sex, but who would probably like it if they had it—way too risky. But if one knows that a person wants, in far mode, to get laid, I think it’s generally okay to push the idea onto them in near mode.
ETA: I’m not disagreeing with OP, just pointing out that for some people, near-mode doesn’t impel them to go further, it impels them to hold back.
This would severely interfere with most people’s ability to comfortably maintain hypocritical inconsistent ideals. Not recommended.
Please elaborate.
For most people their instincts have far better judgement than whatever abstract ideas they have floating around in their head. It takes a lot of self awareness and rational thinking for “far mode” thinking to be as useful as “near mode” when it comes to actual behaviors.
This somewhat makes sense to me. Note that I still think consent is extremely important; it’s a terrible idea to e.g. sleep with someone who has never let themselves think in far mode that they want sex, but who would probably like it if they had it—way too risky. But if one knows that a person wants, in far mode, to get laid, I think it’s generally okay to push the idea onto them in near mode.
ETA: I’m not disagreeing with OP, just pointing out that for some people, near-mode doesn’t impel them to go further, it impels them to hold back.
wedrifid excuses his lax morals by claiming that others act like him but pretend not to want to.
Excuses are for those who fail to live up to their own ideals.