This somewhat makes sense to me. Note that I still think consent is extremely important; it’s a terrible idea to e.g. sleep with someone who has never let themselves think in far mode that they want sex, but who would probably like it if they had it—way too risky. But if one knows that a person wants, in far mode, to get laid, I think it’s generally okay to push the idea onto them in near mode.
ETA: I’m not disagreeing with OP, just pointing out that for some people, near-mode doesn’t impel them to go further, it impels them to hold back.
This somewhat makes sense to me. Note that I still think consent is extremely important; it’s a terrible idea to e.g. sleep with someone who has never let themselves think in far mode that they want sex, but who would probably like it if they had it—way too risky. But if one knows that a person wants, in far mode, to get laid, I think it’s generally okay to push the idea onto them in near mode.
ETA: I’m not disagreeing with OP, just pointing out that for some people, near-mode doesn’t impel them to go further, it impels them to hold back.