Yep, that’s it exactly. I metaphorically yank people’s heads up from their phones for pay. ;-)
Actually, it’s more like I keep sticking my hand in front of the phone until they learn to notice the difference and look up themselves. Fortunately, this doesn’t take too long for most people, but how fast it goes depends on how good they are at fooling me into thinking they’re actually looking up when they’re really still looking at the phone.
The easiest way to detect “looking at the phone” is to ask someone a yes or no or question, and see how long of an answer you get. If somebody starts talking about the past or future, they’re not actually paying attention to their inner experience, because inner experience is always present tense. e.g. “I see my mom yelling at me” is an experience, while “my mom used to yell at me” is a commentary on experience. Causal chains (x happened because y) are also commentary, as are generalizations.
(Incidentally, this is another reason I dislike IFS’ model: it encourages adding commentary like “a part of me X” instead of just saying “X”, which makes it more difficult to know if what you’re hearing is describing experience, or commentary/abstraction on experience.)
I imagine it would be possible to create a training program for people to recognize these verbal patterns and to then verify their own spoken or written statements using them, but it would be harder to get people to go through such a program vs. paying me to help fix a problem of theirs, and learning it by doing it along the way.
The easiest way to detect “looking at the phone” is to ask someone a yes or no or question, and see how long of an answer you get. If somebody starts talking about the past or future, they’re not actually paying attention to their inner experience, because inner experience is always present tense. e.g. “I see my mom yelling at me” is an experience, while “my mom used to yell at me” is a commentary on experience. Causal chains (x happened because y) are also commentary, as are generalizations.
This is a really really good paragraph. You can also watch eyes more closely for the defocus moment. Hypnotists use this one.
a training program for people to recognize these verbal patterns and to then verify their own spoken or written statements using them
Yep, that’s it exactly. I metaphorically yank people’s heads up from their phones for pay. ;-)
Actually, it’s more like I keep sticking my hand in front of the phone until they learn to notice the difference and look up themselves. Fortunately, this doesn’t take too long for most people, but how fast it goes depends on how good they are at fooling me into thinking they’re actually looking up when they’re really still looking at the phone.
The easiest way to detect “looking at the phone” is to ask someone a yes or no or question, and see how long of an answer you get. If somebody starts talking about the past or future, they’re not actually paying attention to their inner experience, because inner experience is always present tense. e.g. “I see my mom yelling at me” is an experience, while “my mom used to yell at me” is a commentary on experience. Causal chains (x happened because y) are also commentary, as are generalizations.
(Incidentally, this is another reason I dislike IFS’ model: it encourages adding commentary like “a part of me X” instead of just saying “X”, which makes it more difficult to know if what you’re hearing is describing experience, or commentary/abstraction on experience.)
I imagine it would be possible to create a training program for people to recognize these verbal patterns and to then verify their own spoken or written statements using them, but it would be harder to get people to go through such a program vs. paying me to help fix a problem of theirs, and learning it by doing it along the way.
This is a really really good paragraph. You can also watch eyes more closely for the defocus moment. Hypnotists use this one.
Korzybski’s failed ambition. Also similar to the early (good, prior to cult) work of the NLP people on their ‘meta-model’ of map-territory confusions.