Sometime I might make another post, but will note here for now as a sort of appendix: I think one way grieving is useful is as a focus-tool. (See Focusing for Skeptics, or Hammertime Focusing, or the tag)
Focusing is about trying to figure out something that feels wrong, or off, that you have some unconscious S1 information about but can’t easily explain. When you eventually find the thing-that-is-wrong, it often comes with a felt shift, and relaxing.
This sort of maps onto the orientation and catharsis step of grieving, as I define it here. The orientation step can be trying on different focus-handles, and when you eventually fully see the situation, the catharsis is a kind of felt-shift.
I’m often not very good at focusing, but I’ve found the question “what is it that I maybe have to grieve, and let go of?” to be illuminating, and helpful for figuring out something that is bothering me.
Sometime I might make another post, but will note here for now as a sort of appendix: I think one way grieving is useful is as a focus-tool. (See Focusing for Skeptics, or Hammertime Focusing, or the tag)
Focusing is about trying to figure out something that feels wrong, or off, that you have some unconscious S1 information about but can’t easily explain. When you eventually find the thing-that-is-wrong, it often comes with a felt shift, and relaxing.
This sort of maps onto the orientation and catharsis step of grieving, as I define it here. The orientation step can be trying on different focus-handles, and when you eventually fully see the situation, the catharsis is a kind of felt-shift.
I’m often not very good at focusing, but I’ve found the question “what is it that I maybe have to grieve, and let go of?” to be illuminating, and helpful for figuring out something that is bothering me.