You’re not in Berkeley, so it’s worth asking whether “Elo hadn’t heard about these things” correlates meaningfully with anything particularly relevant here.
I mean, there’s a plausible story where the fact you haven’t heard about them is part of the problem: if someone else had done the things, maybe you would have heard without them having to make a deliberate effort to seek praise.
It also sounds like part of the problem is that even when people praise Brent, when they have the option of giving him support, job offers, etc. they don’t, and so praise by itself feels meaningless. So, even if you had heard of these things, what could you offer?
I’m not living in the Bay Area either or know I’m personally but given my mental model of him from reading what he writes here, probably not comments like this that pressure him into disclosing more.
You’re not in Berkeley, so it’s worth asking whether “Elo hadn’t heard about these things” correlates meaningfully with anything particularly relevant here.
I mean, there’s a plausible story where the fact you haven’t heard about them is part of the problem: if someone else had done the things, maybe you would have heard without them having to make a deliberate effort to seek praise.
It also sounds like part of the problem is that even when people praise Brent, when they have the option of giving him support, job offers, etc. they don’t, and so praise by itself feels meaningless. So, even if you had heard of these things, what could you offer?
I also don’t know what he wants. And maybe he can answer. What does he want?
I’m not living in the Bay Area either or know I’m personally but given my mental model of him from reading what he writes here, probably not comments like this that pressure him into disclosing more.
This thread was pulled from the frontpage, in part, because I took it non-meta. Let this be a lesson.