“Learned helplessness” only seems to cover some of these cases though. My exaggerated tiredness didn’t relate to a feeling of lack of control, but I do agree that it is a learned behavior.
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Cognitive Defusion is the idea that your thoughts & emotions are separate from you. They aren’t immutable facts.
I do think that relates, but I want to communicate:
(1) Your mindset can drastically change how you experience things. (2) A specific subset of those mindsets involve exaggerating your suffering (sincerely), as a learned behavior that got you what you wanted in the past from those in power over you.
The oreo/heaven-or-hell point is to drive home #(1)
So yes, I agree then!
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For relating to my close friends, it usually involves them telling themselves a very sad story (which is true but only focuses on a small subset of details), which can be asked for them to articulate, which can then be challenged directly (in a loving, tactful way; almost socratic?) while providing comfort.
Yeah, I think what I’m trying now is a CBT solution of “Notice your brain consistently telling yourself the worse-case story”, and might need to lean more into CBT. Thanks!
Thanks for making these connections!
“Learned helplessness” only seems to cover some of these cases though. My exaggerated tiredness didn’t relate to a feeling of lack of control, but I do agree that it is a learned behavior.
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Cognitive Defusion is the idea that your thoughts & emotions are separate from you. They aren’t immutable facts.
I do think that relates, but I want to communicate:
So yes, I agree then!
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For relating to my close friends, it usually involves them telling themselves a very sad story (which is true but only focuses on a small subset of details), which can be asked for them to articulate, which can then be challenged directly (in a loving, tactful way; almost socratic?) while providing comfort.
Yeah, I think what I’m trying now is a CBT solution of “Notice your brain consistently telling yourself the worse-case story”, and might need to lean more into CBT. Thanks!