Do you give such gifts once per friend or sometimes multiple times? If you do it multiple times with the same friend, how do you handle conversations around that?
I guess if they found themselves in a similar situation then I’d *want* them to ask me for help. I have a pretty easy time saying no to people and wouldn’t feel bad about sympathetically rejecting a request if that felt like the right call, and maybe that’s not the norm, idk. But in any case, I offered one-off gifts, and it was always understood that way.
Do you give such gifts once per friend or sometimes multiple times? If you do it multiple times with the same friend, how do you handle conversations around that?
Once per. That’s not a policy, I just haven’t yet felt moved to do it twice, so I haven’t really thought about it.
Does that mean that there were also no conversations where people who received money asked later for more from you?
That’s correct.
I guess if they found themselves in a similar situation then I’d *want* them to ask me for help. I have a pretty easy time saying no to people and wouldn’t feel bad about sympathetically rejecting a request if that felt like the right call, and maybe that’s not the norm, idk. But in any case, I offered one-off gifts, and it was always understood that way.