“Another I played with was e.g. “blame avoidance”, i.e. something-like-ladybrain really wants any dating/sex to happen in a way which is “not her fault”. That seems to mostly generate the same predictions.”
Do you think it has some disadvantage, such that you didn’t choose to mention it at all in the OP?
“Blame avoidance” seems like a candidate generator of deep nonconsent preference: if one never consents to anything that’s going on, then one is not to blame for any of it (or so goes the story). There are other generators one could imagine as well—e.g. Elizabeth hypothesized elsethread ‘women are scared men will get angry if they go from “yes” to “no”, in a way they won’t if the woman goes from “----” to “no”, so women delay being explicit until they have all the information’. That’s another hypothesis for what might generate deep nonconsent preference.
I settled on the term “deep nonconsent preference” because that seemed like the most direct description of the behavior-cluster, while assuming the least about what generates that behavior. I did not think (and still don’t think) I had enough information to nail down a primary generator of the behavior.
“Blame avoidance” seems like a candidate generator of deep nonconsent preference: if one never consents to anything that’s going on, then one is not to blame for any of it (or so goes the story). There are other generators one could imagine as well—e.g. Elizabeth hypothesized elsethread ‘women are scared men will get angry if they go from “yes” to “no”, in a way they won’t if the woman goes from “----” to “no”, so women delay being explicit until they have all the information’. That’s another hypothesis for what might generate deep nonconsent preference.
I settled on the term “deep nonconsent preference” because that seemed like the most direct description of the behavior-cluster, while assuming the least about what generates that behavior. I did not think (and still don’t think) I had enough information to nail down a primary generator of the behavior.