People rarely take ownership over their own dating preferences. They either blame wider sociological factors outside of their control, or blame the racial losers themselves (Black women, Asian men) as being responsible for their own undesirability.
Blaming the racial losers is taking ownership of the dating preferences.
Can’t be bothered to read the rest of it since it is extremely long.
Ah okay yes. What I’m saying there is not well phrased.
What I meant is that it is common to blame irrelevant factors in the racial losers or to blame relevant factors disproportionately to the intensity of the racial dating preference.
So for instance if someone said “I don’t date race [x] because they are short” this is both that person taking ownership of the preference and putting “blame” on the racial losers (“blame” wouldn’t even be the appropriate word here).
I was thinking more of cases like an Asian American woman saying Asian American men are too patriarchal to date. There is a moral failing being attributed to Asian men, but it is not plausible that avoiding patriarchal partners explains the Asian woman’s racial preference, due to reasons I describe in the section “Common Arguments Attempting to Explain Asian Women’s Endophobia”.It seems like there is an attempt here to draw attention away from having a racial preference as such. The Steffi Cao article on the “Oxford Study” that I discuss in one of the later sections also contains examples of this.
Can’t be bothered to read the rest of it since it is extremely long.
Blaming the racial losers is taking ownership of the dating preferences.
Can’t be bothered to read the rest of it since it is extremely long.
Ah okay yes. What I’m saying there is not well phrased.
What I meant is that it is common to blame irrelevant factors in the racial losers or to blame relevant factors disproportionately to the intensity of the racial dating preference.
So for instance if someone said “I don’t date race [x] because they are short” this is both that person taking ownership of the preference and putting “blame” on the racial losers (“blame” wouldn’t even be the appropriate word here).
I was thinking more of cases like an Asian American woman saying Asian American men are too patriarchal to date. There is a moral failing being attributed to Asian men, but it is not plausible that avoiding patriarchal partners explains the Asian woman’s racial preference, due to reasons I describe in the section “Common Arguments Attempting to Explain Asian Women’s Endophobia”. It seems like there is an attempt here to draw attention away from having a racial preference as such. The Steffi Cao article on the “Oxford Study” that I discuss in one of the later sections also contains examples of this.
Downvoting your comment because this seems poor.
I think most people understood what you meant by this but perhaps you could make it explicit, as it’s an interesting clarification.