The other move, I think, is something like “my cat’s not doing well”, which is pretty fucked up to say if false, but does put the frame back on “you don’t know what’s going on with me and you don’t get to assume”.
Lol interesting, that definitely undermines the person’s frame. The difference is that my version builds status/respect for me as a capable frame battler while the other builds compassion for you as a victim of the person’s aggression (and a sufferer of the cat situation).
The other move, I think, is something like “my cat’s not doing well”, which is pretty fucked up to say if false, but does put the frame back on “you don’t know what’s going on with me and you don’t get to assume”.
Even simpler but getting many of the benefits is “was that a question?”
Lol interesting, that definitely undermines the person’s frame. The difference is that my version builds status/respect for me as a capable frame battler while the other builds compassion for you as a victim of the person’s aggression (and a sufferer of the cat situation).