I only go further when I detect mutual escalation because I got tired of attracting the kind of person who won’t reciprocate in the escalation process. this makes me attempt to date many fewer people and I think my matching SNR is much better for it. Previously I tried to date people who didn’t escalate in return and it wasn’t great, lots of waiting for ”...so do you want to hang out or...” type moments.
more speculatively people may be having difficulty describing the surface and moving parts of a subspace of human behavior which is both fairly complex and is submerged in noise just enough to not be clearly visible, so in general I’d expect any concrete claim to be a small update that doesn’t completely remove noise
Sounds like you might be able to provide a data point on the main question I’m curious about: roughly what fraction of people (or people of your preferred gender) mutually escalate at all?
I only go further when I detect mutual escalation because I got tired of attracting the kind of person who won’t reciprocate in the escalation process. this makes me attempt to date many fewer people and I think my matching SNR is much better for it. Previously I tried to date people who didn’t escalate in return and it wasn’t great, lots of waiting for ”...so do you want to hang out or...” type moments.
more speculatively people may be having difficulty describing the surface and moving parts of a subspace of human behavior which is both fairly complex and is submerged in noise just enough to not be clearly visible, so in general I’d expect any concrete claim to be a small update that doesn’t completely remove noise
Sounds like you might be able to provide a data point on the main question I’m curious about: roughly what fraction of people (or people of your preferred gender) mutually escalate at all?