[Question] What went wrong in this interaction?

I’m cu­ri­ous about an in­ter­ac­tion I had a few weeks ago with some­one in the ra­tio­nal­ity com­mu­nity, I was won­der­ing if some­one here can look at the con­ver­sa­tion and eval­u­ate what ‘went wrong’ so to speak.

It be­gan with some com­ments I made on a blog post, where I dis­agreed with the au­thor that ‘metoo’ was good, but rather than dis­cuss the en­tire point I wanted just to ad­dress some coun­terex­am­ples to some­thing the au­thor said about metoo never hav­ing gone too far. The post is here: http://​​ben­jam­in­rosshoff­man.com/​​metoo-is-good/​​

After a bit of back and forth, it seemed like I should try take it to pri­vate chat be­fore it turned into a de­mon thread. This was the en­su­ing con­ver­sa­tion: https://​​paste­bin.com/​​epQmxZK2

It seems to me like my points were un­der­stood, and like­wise I didn’t quite get what the au­thor was try­ing to make me un­der­stand.

To me, it seems to me like my points were un­der­stood, and like­wise I didn’t quite get what the au­thor was try­ing to make me un­der­stand.

The au­thor also seemed hos­tile and un­will­ing to en­gage, and how he dis­en­gaged from the con­ver­sa­tion seemed like a per­sonal at­tack that was un­jus­tified. But I’m bi­ased, so I was won­der­ing if it was some­thing about my com­ments or be­hav­ior or tone that I was miss­ing that pro­voked that re­sponse, or if I mis­read the hos­tility at all.

And any thoughts about why the au­thor had that kind of a re­ac­tion? It was not what I ex­pected since I thought most ra­tio­nal com­mu­nity mem­bers would wel­come a hon­est dis­cus­sion like the one I was try­ing to start.