I have the opposite observation on abuse in poly vs mono relationships. I’m interested in discussing further but I think that requires naming names and I don’t want to do so in a public forum, so maybe we should discuss offline.
Davis said harmful and habryka said abusive, which aren’t synonymous. It’s entirely possible for poly to lead to a lower chance any particular relationship is abusive, and yet raise the total amount of harm-done-by-relationships in a person or community.
2. Yeah, I didn’t mean to imply that it’s in direct contradiction, just that I have the most data about actually abusive relationships, and some broad implication that I do think that’s where most of the variance comes from, though definitely not all of it.
I have the opposite observation on abuse in poly vs mono relationships. I’m interested in discussing further but I think that requires naming names and I don’t want to do so in a public forum, so maybe we should discuss offline.
Davis said harmful and habryka said abusive, which aren’t synonymous. It’s entirely possible for poly to lead to a lower chance any particular relationship is abusive, and yet raise the total amount of harm-done-by-relationships in a person or community.
1. Sure, happy to chat
2. Yeah, I didn’t mean to imply that it’s in direct contradiction, just that I have the most data about actually abusive relationships, and some broad implication that I do think that’s where most of the variance comes from, though definitely not all of it.