Being asked to… not hang out with low value people… is just one more thing that is consistent with the office environment.
Maybe I’m naive, but I don’t think there’s approximately any normal relationship in which it’s considered acceptable to ask someone to not associate with ~anyone other than current employees. The closest example I can think of is monasticism, but in that context (a) that expectation is clear and (b) at least in the Catholic church there’s a higher internal authority who can adjudicate abuse claims.
Sorry, I was using “normal” to mean “not abusive”. Even in weird and atypical environments, I find it hard to think of situations where “don’t hang out with your family” is an acceptable ask (with the one exception listed in my comment).
Is your point that “being asked to not hang out with low value people” is inherently abusive in a way worse than everything else going on in that list? Like maybe it’s terrible, but I don’t put it in it’s own separate category apart from “sleeping with my boss.” That’s kind of my general point: none of the stuff said in this post is unusual for an environment where the employee lives and sleeps with their boss.
Is your point that “being asked to not hang out with low value people” is inherently abusive in a way worse than everything else going on in that list?
Maybe I’m naive, but I don’t think there’s approximately any normal relationship in which it’s considered acceptable to ask someone to not associate with ~anyone other than current employees. The closest example I can think of is monasticism, but in that context (a) that expectation is clear and (b) at least in the Catholic church there’s a higher internal authority who can adjudicate abuse claims.
Just FYI, the original claim is a wild distortion of the truth. We’ll be providing evidence in our upcoming post.
This is within the context of me saying that the office environment is incredibly weird and atypical.
Plenty of “weird and atypical” things aren’t red flags; this one, however, is a well-known predictor of abusive environments.
Sorry, I was using “normal” to mean “not abusive”. Even in weird and atypical environments, I find it hard to think of situations where “don’t hang out with your family” is an acceptable ask (with the one exception listed in my comment).
Is your point that “being asked to not hang out with low value people” is inherently abusive in a way worse than everything else going on in that list? Like maybe it’s terrible, but I don’t put it in it’s own separate category apart from “sleeping with my boss.” That’s kind of my general point: none of the stuff said in this post is unusual for an environment where the employee lives and sleeps with their boss.
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