Yeah… My current best guess is that you’re right that I wasn’t seeing The Thing, but not because of looking at it from a perspective where The Thing isn’t apparent. From this thread:
I don’t think I’ve ever felt that thing. My new working hypothesis is that I have near-zero oxytocin production, and have literally never felt this whole cluster of emotions around “connection”, non-limerence-”love”, or any of the weaker forms of it either. That would explain a lot.
You say that partial dissolution of self in the partnership feels amazing, and uh… I haven’t felt that, even in circumstances where it clearly would have triggered for most other people. I also haven’t felt a bunch of adjacent or milder versions of the same thing, including toward my family growing up (despite generally being a loving and supportive and healthy family).
Yeah… My current best guess is that you’re right that I wasn’t seeing The Thing, but not because of looking at it from a perspective where The Thing isn’t apparent. From this thread:
You say that partial dissolution of self in the partnership feels amazing, and uh… I haven’t felt that, even in circumstances where it clearly would have triggered for most other people. I also haven’t felt a bunch of adjacent or milder versions of the same thing, including toward my family growing up (despite generally being a loving and supportive and healthy family).