This post makes me less interested in inviting you over for dinner again. What has to happen in your head for you to be willing to come to my house and eat food I cook and participate in charming conversation and then blithely slash our tires if we ask the wrong question because you think we’re going to become hysterical or behave immorally should we gain access to information or be told that we cannot have it? Why does that sound like a welcoming environment you’d like to visit, with us on such a supposed hair trigger about mere true facts?
Not really my business, but a reaction like this may give people an incentive to lie to you.
Not really my business, but a reaction like this may give people an incentive to lie to you.
I think that reaction is walking her talk. She could have changed her preference for inviting him over for dinner silently. Being truthful about her position is an example of being radically honest.
It depends on her reputation for being good at detecting when people lie to her.
If she has a reputation for being good at it and openly makes it known that she punishes people for lying to her, people will less likely lie to her. She only has a problem if people believe that she can’t effectively punish people for lying to her because she doesn’t spot the lies.
It doesn’t make sense to adopt a policy where a person sharing information about what it is like to interact with them must never affect how likely you are to interact with them. If someone tells me they’ve taken up smoking, they have contracted tuberculosis, they have decided that punching people in the arm is affectionate behavior, etc., then it’s kind of them to warn me and they could achieve short-term gains by deceiving me instead until I inevitably notice, but I will not reward the kindness of the warning with my company. The case of lying recurses here where the other examples don’t, but my goal is not, “make sure that people who have a tendency to lie don’t lie about having that tendency”. It’s “don’t hang out with people who are going to lie to me, like, at all”.
Not really my business, but a reaction like this may give people an incentive to lie to you.
I think that reaction is walking her talk. She could have changed her preference for inviting him over for dinner silently. Being truthful about her position is an example of being radically honest.
That doesn’t, however, make the response incorrect.
It depends on her reputation for being good at detecting when people lie to her.
If she has a reputation for being good at it and openly makes it known that she punishes people for lying to her, people will less likely lie to her. She only has a problem if people believe that she can’t effectively punish people for lying to her because she doesn’t spot the lies.
It doesn’t make sense to adopt a policy where a person sharing information about what it is like to interact with them must never affect how likely you are to interact with them. If someone tells me they’ve taken up smoking, they have contracted tuberculosis, they have decided that punching people in the arm is affectionate behavior, etc., then it’s kind of them to warn me and they could achieve short-term gains by deceiving me instead until I inevitably notice, but I will not reward the kindness of the warning with my company. The case of lying recurses here where the other examples don’t, but my goal is not, “make sure that people who have a tendency to lie don’t lie about having that tendency”. It’s “don’t hang out with people who are going to lie to me, like, at all”.
Good luck with that.