2) Admit your weakness. Leads to low status, and then opposition from outsiders.
I wonder: it feels like with individuals, honestly and directly admitting your weakness while giving the impression that they’re not anything you’re trying to hide, can actually increase your status. Having weaknesses yet being comfortable with them signals that you believe you have strength that compensates for those weaknesses, plus having flaws makes you more relatable. Could that also work for groups? I guess the biggest problem would be that with groups, it’s harder to present a unified front: even when a single person smoothly and honestly admits the flaw, another gets all defensive.
I don’t think this strategy works well for individuals. Though maybe we are thinking of different reference sets. To me the way to understand social interactions is to look at what politicians do. Or if one only cares about a more intelligent set of humans executives at companies. People may hate politicians/executives but they are provably good at succeeding socially.
Are politicians/executives big on admitting weakness? I don’t think so. They seem much more fond of either blatantly lying (and betting their supporters will defend them) or making only the weakest possible admissions of weakness/guilt (“mistakes were made”).
Of course acting like a politician is usually pretty terrible for all sorts of reasons. But its probably the “playing to win” action socially.
I wonder: it feels like with individuals, honestly and directly admitting your weakness while giving the impression that they’re not anything you’re trying to hide, can actually increase your status. Having weaknesses yet being comfortable with them signals that you believe you have strength that compensates for those weaknesses, plus having flaws makes you more relatable. Could that also work for groups? I guess the biggest problem would be that with groups, it’s harder to present a unified front: even when a single person smoothly and honestly admits the flaw, another gets all defensive.
I don’t think this strategy works well for individuals. Though maybe we are thinking of different reference sets. To me the way to understand social interactions is to look at what politicians do. Or if one only cares about a more intelligent set of humans executives at companies. People may hate politicians/executives but they are provably good at succeeding socially.
Are politicians/executives big on admitting weakness? I don’t think so. They seem much more fond of either blatantly lying (and betting their supporters will defend them) or making only the weakest possible admissions of weakness/guilt (“mistakes were made”).
Of course acting like a politician is usually pretty terrible for all sorts of reasons. But its probably the “playing to win” action socially.