I agree with the idea that it’s important for people to understand their pain when they aren’t going to just flinch from it.
The framing you chose seems odd to me though. Instead of saying “if you’re going to suggest people do something painful, you should present them with a model/make sure they understand” or saying “if someone is suggesting you do something painful, make sure you have a model”, you say “*they* should present *you* with a model”. Are you intending to suggest to your audience that they should feel *entitled* to having a model accompany the initial request, above and beyond the fact that it’s important to understand?
Hm, I guess that’s a slightly stronger claim, but I do endorse it now that I think about the distinction; not to the point where every single such piece of advice should come bundled with an unsolicited painfulness model, but to the point where if you’re giving painful advice you should have the model on hand.
I agree with the idea that it’s important for people to understand their pain when they aren’t going to just flinch from it.
The framing you chose seems odd to me though. Instead of saying “if you’re going to suggest people do something painful, you should present them with a model/make sure they understand” or saying “if someone is suggesting you do something painful, make sure you have a model”, you say “*they* should present *you* with a model”. Are you intending to suggest to your audience that they should feel *entitled* to having a model accompany the initial request, above and beyond the fact that it’s important to understand?
If you don’t demand an explanation, you will at least sometimes confabulate one. This is part of how hazing works.
Hm, I guess that’s a slightly stronger claim, but I do endorse it now that I think about the distinction; not to the point where every single such piece of advice should come bundled with an unsolicited painfulness model, but to the point where if you’re giving painful advice you should have the model on hand.