While I noticed this tendency in others and myself, I actively resisted it trying not to be afraid of saying “that still doesn’t make sense to me”. Perhaps it might be a good idea to frequently repeat that you won’t think less of someone for admitting your explanation didn’t make sense to them, that it probably has more to do with your explanation than with them?
Sometimes I would fake understanding if I gave up hope of understanding at that time (time constraints, poor explanatory skills etc.) and wanted to drop the topic.
There are plenty of pedagological methods here: one of the most obvious is to ask for anonymous questions to be given in on paper between lectures or halfway through etc.
From the point of view of the student, I also sometimes don’t ask for explanation because once people start they don’t stop. Often if someone keeps on going they’ll make it clear, whereas if you stop to ask they spend 20 minutes explaining it even though you realise what they mean after 2.
From the point of view of the student, I also sometimes don’t ask for explanation because once people start they don’t stop. Often if someone keeps on going they’ll make it clear, whereas if you stop to ask they spend 20 minutes explaining it even though you realise what they mean after 2.
Oh man, I hate that. My dad does this all the time—I go far out of my way to ask other people for information because if I let him get started I could be sitting there for an hour and a half, either waiting for him to get to the point by way of going over stuff I already understood, or waiting for him to finish the tangents he goes on after answering the question I asked.
While I noticed this tendency in others and myself, I actively resisted it trying not to be afraid of saying “that still doesn’t make sense to me”. Perhaps it might be a good idea to frequently repeat that you won’t think less of someone for admitting your explanation didn’t make sense to them, that it probably has more to do with your explanation than with them?
Sometimes I would fake understanding if I gave up hope of understanding at that time (time constraints, poor explanatory skills etc.) and wanted to drop the topic.
There are plenty of pedagological methods here: one of the most obvious is to ask for anonymous questions to be given in on paper between lectures or halfway through etc.
From the point of view of the student, I also sometimes don’t ask for explanation because once people start they don’t stop. Often if someone keeps on going they’ll make it clear, whereas if you stop to ask they spend 20 minutes explaining it even though you realise what they mean after 2.
Oh man, I hate that. My dad does this all the time—I go far out of my way to ask other people for information because if I let him get started I could be sitting there for an hour and a half, either waiting for him to get to the point by way of going over stuff I already understood, or waiting for him to finish the tangents he goes on after answering the question I asked.