If you disagree with me on something I need to remind myself not to automatically fight.
I like to remind myself that if I’m ignoring potentially useful information, I may be fucking myself over. I think that this kinda turns aggressive feelings to my advantage, because they amplify my desire to not do that.
The problem my brother-in-law has is not that he ignores useful information. He evaluates lots of useful information—pertaining to a street fighting situation. Usefulness needs to be specified in more detail. It can be very useful to know your opponent well. It just depends on your goals. If you do not really know your goals your subconscious will evaluate everything with respect to known situation and primary desires..
This more or less cuts to the core of the issue. Would I be better off if I could flip a switch and shut off my aggression entirely? Almost certainly not, since I wouldn’t care enough to form a cogent answer to any comments. Would I be well served by immediately jumping to action every time I feel passionate? Evidently not, since in my haste to resolve a perceived insult or problem I could forget to fully think through the issue from the start and form an erroneous or biased response. Essentially I’d just like to learn more patience, so that when something does ruffle my feathers I don’t feel the need to instantly answer before I’ve given careful consideration.
I like to remind myself that if I’m ignoring potentially useful information, I may be fucking myself over. I think that this kinda turns aggressive feelings to my advantage, because they amplify my desire to not do that.
The problem my brother-in-law has is not that he ignores useful information. He evaluates lots of useful information—pertaining to a street fighting situation. Usefulness needs to be specified in more detail. It can be very useful to know your opponent well. It just depends on your goals. If you do not really know your goals your subconscious will evaluate everything with respect to known situation and primary desires..
This more or less cuts to the core of the issue. Would I be better off if I could flip a switch and shut off my aggression entirely? Almost certainly not, since I wouldn’t care enough to form a cogent answer to any comments. Would I be well served by immediately jumping to action every time I feel passionate? Evidently not, since in my haste to resolve a perceived insult or problem I could forget to fully think through the issue from the start and form an erroneous or biased response. Essentially I’d just like to learn more patience, so that when something does ruffle my feathers I don’t feel the need to instantly answer before I’ve given careful consideration.