This could even be inverted. I’ve seen many people claim they were more romantically successful when they were poor, jobless, ill, psychologically unstable, on drugs and so on. Have experienced something like that myself as well. My best explanation is that such things make you come across as more real and exciting in some way. Because most people at most times are boring as hell.
That suggests the possibility to get into some kind of hardship on purpose, to gain more “reality”. But I’m not sure you can push yourself on purpose into as much genuine panic and desperation as it takes. You’d stop yourself earlier.
This could even be inverted. I’ve seen many people claim they were more romantically successful when they were poor, jobless, ill, psychologically unstable, on drugs and so on. Have experienced something like that myself as well. My best explanation is that such things make you come across as more real and exciting in some way. Because most people at most times are boring as hell.
That suggests the possibility to get into some kind of hardship on purpose, to gain more “reality”. But I’m not sure you can push yourself on purpose into as much genuine panic and desperation as it takes. You’d stop yourself earlier.