I really appreciate your introspection on this, but suggest that status consciousness is probably still a large part of what’s going on, because if you weren’t worried about looking bad in front of an audience (i.e., looking like you didn’t have an answer to one of Said’s questions/objections), you could simply ignore or stop replying to him if you thought his style of conversation was too extreme for your tastes, instead of feeling like his “entrance to my comment threads was a minor emergency”.
you could simply ignore or stop replying to him if you thought his style of conversation was too extreme for your tastes, instead of feeling like his “entrance to my comment threads was a minor emergency”.
I wanna flag, your use of the word “simply” here is… like, idk, false.
I do think it’s good for people to learn the skill of not caring what other people think and being able to think out loud even when someone is being annoying. But, this is a pretty difficult skill for lots of people. I think it’s pretty common for people who are attempting to learn it to instead end up contorting their original thought process around what the anticipated social punishment.
I think it’s a coherent position to want LessWrong “price of entry” to be gaining that skill. I don’t think it’s a reasonable position to call it “simply...”. It’s asking for like 10-200 hours of pretty scary, painful work.
The way I feel about this reply is “I am an adaptation-executor, not a fitness optimizer”? Your reading is a perfectly valid psychoanalysis of my perfectionism around comments sections and compulsions to reply, but as far as I recall my internal dialogue stopped at “this is quite a tiresome minor emergency, I will have to tread several steps more carefully than usual in replying.”
Let me reiterate that my previous reply is expanding on the reasons I personally found interacting with Said difficult. None of our conversations were remotely ban-worthy behavior.
sure, the prestige challenge seems to be relevant, but I feel like the problem is that said also makes dominance threats and those suck. (I feel like there’s something going on where a big enough prestige challenge spills into dominance, or something? stated in the spirit of exploratory ramblings that may or may not have an insight somewhere downstream of them)
edit: actually I don’t want to deal with this right now, bye. I resisted my urge to delete this comment’s contents
I really appreciate your introspection on this, but suggest that status consciousness is probably still a large part of what’s going on, because if you weren’t worried about looking bad in front of an audience (i.e., looking like you didn’t have an answer to one of Said’s questions/objections), you could simply ignore or stop replying to him if you thought his style of conversation was too extreme for your tastes, instead of feeling like his “entrance to my comment threads was a minor emergency”.
I wanna flag, your use of the word “simply” here is… like, idk, false.
I do think it’s good for people to learn the skill of not caring what other people think and being able to think out loud even when someone is being annoying. But, this is a pretty difficult skill for lots of people. I think it’s pretty common for people who are attempting to learn it to instead end up contorting their original thought process around what the anticipated social punishment.
I think it’s a coherent position to want LessWrong “price of entry” to be gaining that skill. I don’t think it’s a reasonable position to call it “simply...”. It’s asking for like 10-200 hours of pretty scary, painful work.
The way I feel about this reply is “I am an adaptation-executor, not a fitness optimizer”? Your reading is a perfectly valid psychoanalysis of my perfectionism around comments sections and compulsions to reply, but as far as I recall my internal dialogue stopped at “this is quite a tiresome minor emergency, I will have to tread several steps more carefully than usual in replying.”
Let me reiterate that my previous reply is expanding on the reasons I personally found interacting with Said difficult. None of our conversations were remotely ban-worthy behavior.
sure, the prestige challenge seems to be relevant, but I feel like the problem is that said also makes dominance threats and those suck. (I feel like there’s something going on where a big enough prestige challenge spills into dominance, or something? stated in the spirit of exploratory ramblings that may or may not have an insight somewhere downstream of them)
edit: actually I don’t want to deal with this right now, bye. I resisted my urge to delete this comment’s contents
What in the world is this about…?