My god, I think this might be the approach to dating most antagonistic to human nature. I thought dating apps were bad, but actually writing out a full document with long lists of every possible reason someone else might want to reject you? It baffles my mind that there has ever been a single guy that has gotten laid this way. As with all dating, supply and demand means that these dating documents will mostly be used by women to decide which of the dozens of male suitors to accept. And as with all dating apps, the women will all try to choose the one tall rich high-status handsome dude while barely glancing at 80% of men. Guys, the way to get girlfriends is through real life interaction, get an attractive body by working out, then confidently approach women you find attractive and ask them out, get used to being rejected, and try again.
Guys, the way to get girlfriends is through real life interaction, get an attractive body by working out, then confidently approach women you find attractive and ask them out, get used to being rejected, and try again.
What is your estimate of the percentage of non-single Less Wrong members that met their current partner by means of the approach you recommend? (Counting both those who used the given method themselves, or whose partner used it on them.)
the women will all try to choose the one tall rich high-status handsome dude while barely glancing at 80% of men.
This may certainly be true for some women, but what’s your basis for the claim that “all” women will try to use this criteria? It seems to me wildly implausible both on the basis of how much individual variation there is in people, as well as just, well, knowing lots of women and having witnessed both what they claim to be attracted to and also the kinds of people they’ve actually ended up with.
As with all dating, supply and demand means that these dating documents will mostly be used by women to decide which of the dozens of male suitors to accept. And as with all dating apps, the women will all try to choose the one tall rich high-status handsome dude while barely glancing at 80% of men.
In the market for casual sex and the market for longterm relationships, the skew of the market is actually the other way around and your market value can be very different, which is why some people go for an ambigous strategy to end up with higher value mates. (Which is probably not the best strategy to end up in a happy relationship)
I thought dating apps were bad, but actually writing out a full document with long lists of every possible reason someone else might want to reject you?
Given that it is one of the major decisions of your live it would make sense to try to get as much information as possible and additionally you have a smaller cost for being explicit in rationalists circles.
My god, I think this might be the approach to dating most antagonistic to human nature. I thought dating apps were bad, but actually writing out a full document with long lists of every possible reason someone else might want to reject you? It baffles my mind that there has ever been a single guy that has gotten laid this way. As with all dating, supply and demand means that these dating documents will mostly be used by women to decide which of the dozens of male suitors to accept. And as with all dating apps, the women will all try to choose the one tall rich high-status handsome dude while barely glancing at 80% of men. Guys, the way to get girlfriends is through real life interaction, get an attractive body by working out, then confidently approach women you find attractive and ask them out, get used to being rejected, and try again.
What is your estimate of the percentage of non-single Less Wrong members that met their current partner by means of the approach you recommend? (Counting both those who used the given method themselves, or whose partner used it on them.)
This may certainly be true for some women, but what’s your basis for the claim that “all” women will try to use this criteria? It seems to me wildly implausible both on the basis of how much individual variation there is in people, as well as just, well, knowing lots of women and having witnessed both what they claim to be attracted to and also the kinds of people they’ve actually ended up with.
In the market for casual sex and the market for longterm relationships, the skew of the market is actually the other way around and your market value can be very different, which is why some people go for an ambigous strategy to end up with higher value mates. (Which is probably not the best strategy to end up in a happy relationship)
Given that it is one of the major decisions of your live it would make sense to try to get as much information as possible and additionally you have a smaller cost for being explicit in rationalists circles.