I mean, the friend probably has your best interest in mind, “you’l be glad you jumped”
My experience is that people feel like they’re saying it for your own good, but it’s not like they’re carefully running simulations of everything they know about you and coming to a rigorous conclusion. They’re running primarily on script-following, projection, and heuristics, and even if they weren’t, you have more information about yourself in that moment than they do.
My experience is that people feel like they’re saying it for your own good, but it’s not like they’re carefully running simulations of everything they know about you and coming to a rigorous conclusion. They’re running primarily on script-following, projection, and heuristics, and even if they weren’t, you have more information about yourself in that moment than they do.