If you try to have conversations about things that actually matter, many humans immediately become exactly that unlikeable. It’s through social conditioning that we mostly learn to stop talking about things that matter because it goes so poorly.
I don’t think this is true. This sounds like an issue that stems from the manner in which one approaches conversations, not the sorts of things one talks about.
I do not expect a longer comment on discussion to be useful to this thread (or, more importantly, to the post it’s under), but I would like to put some chips down on the idea that talking to people in respectful and non-smug ways can be a good way to talk about “things that actually matter”.
If you try to have conversations about things that actually matter, many humans immediately become exactly that unlikeable. It’s through social conditioning that we mostly learn to stop talking about things that matter because it goes so poorly.
I don’t think this is true. This sounds like an issue that stems from the manner in which one approaches conversations, not the sorts of things one talks about.
I do not expect a longer comment on discussion to be useful to this thread (or, more importantly, to the post it’s under), but I would like to put some chips down on the idea that talking to people in respectful and non-smug ways can be a good way to talk about “things that actually matter”.