announcing that you’re doing something impressive feels like a (small) status hit
Something isn’t right here. Do you mean it feels like a status grab—a status hit to others, avoided out of politeness? Or that people who do extremely impressive (as opposed to moderately impressive ones) things shouldn’t need to announce it, so “I’m saving the world” is a status loss but “I’m learning Swahili” is a status gain?
I interpreted this as meaning that needing to nominate yourself implies that nobody else cares enough about your work to name you as an example, meaning that you’re not actually that important.
I know I’ve felt that way every now and then, though on those occasions the reason has also been clear to me. I’m not sure if it’s equally plausible for someone to feel that way and not realize the logic behind it.
Something isn’t right here. Do you mean it feels like a status grab—a status hit to others, avoided out of politeness?
Politeness is about covert/deniable transactions in status-related attributes, so it’s a curiosity stopper in this context, not an explanation. It probably feels like a status hit because it’s expected (perhaps incorrectly) to feel like a status grab to others. What you feel isn’t generally a reason for responding a certain way, instead it’s a means: something external should be a reason, whose detection might be represented as a feeling, in turn triggering a behavior.
Something isn’t right here. Do you mean it feels like a status grab—a status hit to others, avoided out of politeness? Or that people who do extremely impressive (as opposed to moderately impressive ones) things shouldn’t need to announce it, so “I’m saving the world” is a status loss but “I’m learning Swahili” is a status gain?
I interpreted this as meaning that needing to nominate yourself implies that nobody else cares enough about your work to name you as an example, meaning that you’re not actually that important.
Convoluted. But do you feel it’s plausible?
I know I’ve felt that way every now and then, though on those occasions the reason has also been clear to me. I’m not sure if it’s equally plausible for someone to feel that way and not realize the logic behind it.
Politeness is about covert/deniable transactions in status-related attributes, so it’s a curiosity stopper in this context, not an explanation. It probably feels like a status hit because it’s expected (perhaps incorrectly) to feel like a status grab to others. What you feel isn’t generally a reason for responding a certain way, instead it’s a means: something external should be a reason, whose detection might be represented as a feeling, in turn triggering a behavior.