In general I’m pretty skeptical of ideas to adopt “new and improved” social norms that are substantially different from what society has already landed on, especially for a norm as ancient and culturally universal as “apologizing.” If you think we should be doing something very different, I think you’re probably overlooking something!
I don’t think I’m proposing “new and improved” social norms! I think I’m defending the commonsensical idea that I don’t want to apologize for costs imposed on others when I’m “not actually sorry” (i.e., when I stand by my actions despite the costs), because then people would (I think rightly) feel betrayed when I take similar actions again in the future. This is something I’ve believed for a long time (see November 2014 and December 2020 prior work linked in the post, or a February 2023 Less Wrong comment), not something I just made up in order to write a reply post.
This makes no sense. Per Wikipedia, the Samson option is a “‘last resort’ against any country whose military has invaded and/or destroyed much of Israel” (emphasis mine). It’s about deterring enemies (if you murder us, we’ll take you down with us), not nihilistically hurting third parties—especially not the U.S. (Israel’s patron) and diaspora Jews (however “notably culturally different”). “Consider evacuating from Tehran, Damascus, Riyadh, or Cairo” would at least make sense.