Came for the Harry Potter fanfic, a positive vision of what do with atheism, and the anti-death ethos. Stayed for the good thinking.
I really like math and physics. I can program but am not a programmer—I’d have to learn how to make a website and struggle to handle more than a couple hundred LOC. Learning a little Haskell made me enjoy coding again, I’d like to get better at it.
I’m currently very bad at following through on commitments. I hope to fix this by tomorrow. I’ll probably fail, but I shoot for getting it down before my fifty thousandth tomorrow.

Even in the cases where cutting off the previous connections is good, it seems likely to have the same control + destabilizing effects. It may be meliorated by the previous connections being even more controlling and destabilizing (and misery-inducing), but it’s still running the risks.
Hell, aren’t the Zizians an example of a cult or cult-like thing that operates in large part by exploiting the effects of leaving previous connections? I don’t know the details, but surely many of them involved had actively shitty family members who they were wise to have left, even if the choice of who to go to was terrible.