Thanks, that was really helpful. I’ve been having those same thoughts about alcohol for quite a while. It’s never been a big dangerous problem, but it’s a mild drag on me mentally, physically, and emotionally that I’d like to get rid of.
The typical AA framing turns me off: pseudo religious, complete helplessness, etc. The ideas from you and your friends are a much better fit for me. Some of those tips sound useful, like having a drink in my hand so friends don’t feel the need to offer me one.
As a kid I was often frustrated by adult inconsistency and unfairness. I’m glad to see a parent trying to treat kids with respect. The sticky candy example sounds like hassle for the parent, but it sends good messages to the kid.