tall ships down
subject: the final voyages and sinkings of five large sailing vessels
big lessons: 1) if you have a weakness (personally, in your competence or temperament, or structurally, in your vessel or equipment) and spend enough time in an unpredictable environment, it will eventually be exploited. 2) the fact that an environment is unpredictable does not relieve you from the responsibility of considering risks and working to minimize them. 3) we often have an inkling about our weaknesses, but if we’ve gotten by so far without major incident, we see no pressing need to address them. 4) if you’re the captain/leader of an operation, know what the hell you’re doing. if you’re the equivalent of an ordinary seaman, make it a priority to become competent enough to identify a leader who doesn’t know what the hell s/he’s doing.
you allude to the dangers that follow from this; i think one issue with making too much of distinctively gendered traits is that it sets up expectations that can be socially and professionally costly to violate. i’m female. i’m argumentative. i’m competitive. i would not describe myself as nurturing, although i think it’s a very admirable quality. but as far as i can tell, i don’t embody feminine qualities. if those are something i should take pride in, should their absence be shameful? and of course, the social expectations that accompany the biological state of being female are part of what keep women out of high-paying and high-powered jobs, etc. i think this is why many feminists are so reluctant to accept separate male and female norms. (the problem cuts both ways, of course. i’ve known a few non-masculine heterosexual men who’ve endured social problems because they didn’t fit the male mold.)
saying it’s OK for men and women to see themselves as inherently different on traits other than gross anatomy is a bit easier when you’re a man or woman who has the qualities you’re “supposed” to have.