I have a little kid who is generally quite truthful, innocent enough not to lie in most cases. I noticed recently that when someone asks him, “How are you”, he usually answers in detail because, well, you asked, didn’t you? When I was a teenager I hated people who lied and I tended to ignore these unwritten social rules to the extent I could. I.e. I didn’t ask if I didn’t want to know and people thought I was rude. So, my question is, should I teach him to lie upon these occasions?
It becomes clear that no lying is necessary in this case when you realize that the actual purpose of producing the sequence of sounds “how are you” is often not to request a detailed description of the listener’s current well-being, but only to greet them, foster good-will, show friendship, or something like that.
You must simply know the context. Sometimes the word “box” points to an object; other times to a sport. Similarly, sometimes the phrase “how are you” functions as a request for a detailed etc; other times it’s for something somewhat different.
I used to forget to brush my teeth a lot, or even when I’d remember I’d shrug it off out of some sort of extreme level of laziness. Here’s how I fixed it: I put my toothbrush in my shower. I brush my teeth in the shower. Saves time, makes it easier to remember, and it’s less boring since I’m multitasking.