I am female, and it’s taken me years to come to terms with the fact that reality probably does has a gender bias, and that some intellectual differences between men and women are likely to have a biological basis. It is really unfair and really difficult to deal with the fact that (on average) being born female means one is less likely to be good at certain things.
Saying “I’m sorry reality offends you ma’am” sounds snide to me, and I don’t think it would help anyone accept painful truths about gender differences.
I’ve found a CBT* technique useful for overcoming that sort of anxiety (it’s called catastrophising). I write down the situation and my prediction in a spreadsheet. An example would be: Situation—at work, I emailed [girl]; she hasn’t emailed back yet. Prediction—She is going to break up with me.
Then when you receive an email back, you write down the outcome in a third column, e.g. received email back—we are meeting up tonight.
Looking back over the spreadsheet, you can see how accurate your predictions have been. I expect they tend to be too negative.
*CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) has a strong evidence base.
ETA: I hope that explanation is clear—I’m in a bit of a rush right now! I really wanted to explain it though, as it’s had an extremely positive impact on my anxiety levels.