This is exactly the problem I have when studying anything I am not already good at. Instead of not letting minor failures (e.g. misplacing a number while calculating the determinant of a matrix and thus spoiling the whole thing by that minor mistake) demotivate me and having a healthy mindset like “Okay, I misplaced a number, but I’ll do better next time and it was not a principal error.” I immideatly get into the shame spiral and start thinking things like “I misplaced a number, I am worthless and stupid and everyone is so much smarter than me, I am a failure, etc.”. It gets ever worse if I make mistaked repeatedly.
This spiraling applies to anything, from subjects I desperately want to be good at to reading LW and not understanding things immideatly and spiraling into “I am stupid and everyone on here is so smart therefore I am a failure and less worthy of anything”. (I’m fairly new here and probably younger than the average user, so I still have a lot to learn).
If anyone has tips on escaping shame spirals, I’d greatly appreciate it!
I do that exact thing (inaccurate mental models of people) too! Have you found any useful ways to counteract that?
I haven’t found any other way than forcing myself to consciously look at unconscious models of people i make from time to time if it is possible and updating the models accoringly but this methos has not been very effective.