The ambition / salary thing is BS, it’s really simple
There’s a hidden thing the women making a lot of money don’t say which is that they largely will exclusively date men who earn >= them
The more honest ones will say this explicitly to their friends. The less honest ones will still feel out the man and try to guess.
That’s all it is, that + a bit of age
Like as a guy when I was making top 1% income I was ~30 y/o
The % of women I could date was at an all time high, 99% of women wouldn’t rule me out over income, and the widest % of the dating market wouldn’t rule me out over age
It was so bizarre to me, the typical 30 y/o guy earning 99% income has a dating pool of up to 99% of the age range of women he would want to date, while the typical 30 y/o woman earning the same has a dating pool of like 0.25% of men she would want to date
And then of course because they are earning top 1% they also want him to be tall, have hair, etc. etc.
In practice it’s closer to like 0.001% or something absurdly small
It’s no skin off my back but it was just weird seeing women who clearly understood numbers very well failing to grasp this impossible scenario they had setup for themselves
I think it’s just that men think about dating in a fundamentally different way due to starting from more of a point of scarcity and then moving to abundance, and women start from a place of abundance and don’t realize what’s happening until it’s happened
IMO the best way for anyone to date is try to relax any constraints as much as you feel comfortable with as much as you can, but not further (education, age, income), and then date for overall chemistry & attractiveness within those constraints.
It’s already so hard to find someone who is physically attractive (and finds you attractive), and who you will be able to live with for 50+ years and enjoy living with, why make it harder for yourself by maximizing every single requirement
The ambition / salary thing is BS, it’s really simple
There’s a hidden thing the women making a lot of money don’t say which is that they largely will exclusively date men who earn >= them
The more honest ones will say this explicitly to their friends. The less honest ones will still feel out the man and try to guess.
That’s all it is, that + a bit of age
Like as a guy when I was making top 1% income I was ~30 y/o
The % of women I could date was at an all time high, 99% of women wouldn’t rule me out over income, and the widest % of the dating market wouldn’t rule me out over age
It was so bizarre to me, the typical 30 y/o guy earning 99% income has a dating pool of up to 99% of the age range of women he would want to date, while the typical 30 y/o woman earning the same has a dating pool of like 0.25% of men she would want to date
And then of course because they are earning top 1% they also want him to be tall, have hair, etc. etc.
In practice it’s closer to like 0.001% or something absurdly small
It’s no skin off my back but it was just weird seeing women who clearly understood numbers very well failing to grasp this impossible scenario they had setup for themselves
I think it’s just that men think about dating in a fundamentally different way due to starting from more of a point of scarcity and then moving to abundance, and women start from a place of abundance and don’t realize what’s happening until it’s happened
IMO the best way for anyone to date is try to relax any constraints as much as you feel comfortable with as much as you can, but not further (education, age, income), and then date for overall chemistry & attractiveness within those constraints.
It’s already so hard to find someone who is physically attractive (and finds you attractive), and who you will be able to live with for 50+ years and enjoy living with, why make it harder for yourself by maximizing every single requirement