I don’t know why OP goes to bars—maybe he does have a goal, or maybe he just does it because that’s what guys are supposed to do.
I think it’s reasonable to assume that he does have some goal, such as “hanging out with my friends who enjoy spending time in bars”. Or even just “it’s what guys are supposed to do and I don’t want to take the status hit”.
It’s possible that he’s asking for advice on doing something that he doesn’t really want to do, but your post came across like you were just assuming that was the case.
I think it’s reasonable to assume that he does have some goal, such as “hanging out with my friends who enjoy spending time in bars”. Or even just “it’s what guys are supposed to do and I don’t want to take the status hit”.
It’s possible that he’s asking for advice on doing something that he doesn’t really want to do, but your post came across like you were just assuming that was the case.