Human dating is notoriously inefficient (not necessarily in the way OP uses this term). Most individuals who want a suitable sex partner and do not already have one accessible will not be able to find one when they want it, even though the odds are very high that someone suitable and willing lives within 5 min from them,. Yet there is clearly very little, if any, free energy in the system, given the number of dating apps and sites trying to extract it. What kind of inefficiencies/inexpoitablities/inadequacies are there in this system?
1) Though there is probably someone suitable and willing living within 5 minutes of Jesse, many more of the people within 5 minutes of em are not. It’s hard to filter these people, and risky to get it wrong. At best, the other person is unwilling, rude or annoying. Worse, they could be unhealthy, violent, or untrustworthy.
2) Dating sites don’t optimize for efficiently starting romantic relationships. If they were really successful at this, people would spend less time on the sites, getting the sites less attention and thus ad / member revenue.
3) A selection effect (?) Many people are already in satisfying romantic situations. People searching right now are more likely to have some sort of character flaw or bad strategy which has keeps them in this situation.
How would we test these? Maybe there’s research already out there that (dis)confirms them?
Most women who want to have sex with a stranger don’t simply want sex. They want an interaction that make them feel in a specific way before they have sex. That emotional experience isn’t just produced by deciding to hook up together.
Just to clarify, some of the free-energy extractors that are not commonly utilized, and for good reasons, are BDSM events, polyamory, swinging and similar fringe activities.
Human dating is notoriously inefficient (not necessarily in the way OP uses this term). Most individuals who want a suitable sex partner and do not already have one accessible will not be able to find one when they want it, even though the odds are very high that someone suitable and willing lives within 5 min from them,. Yet there is clearly very little, if any, free energy in the system, given the number of dating apps and sites trying to extract it. What kind of inefficiencies/inexpoitablities/inadequacies are there in this system?
1) Though there is probably someone suitable and willing living within 5 minutes of Jesse, many more of the people within 5 minutes of em are not. It’s hard to filter these people, and risky to get it wrong. At best, the other person is unwilling, rude or annoying. Worse, they could be unhealthy, violent, or untrustworthy.
2) Dating sites don’t optimize for efficiently starting romantic relationships. If they were really successful at this, people would spend less time on the sites, getting the sites less attention and thus ad / member revenue.
3) A selection effect (?) Many people are already in satisfying romantic situations. People searching right now are more likely to have some sort of character flaw or bad strategy which has keeps them in this situation.
How would we test these? Maybe there’s research already out there that (dis)confirms them?
Most women who want to have sex with a stranger don’t simply want sex. They want an interaction that make them feel in a specific way before they have sex. That emotional experience isn’t just produced by deciding to hook up together.
Just to clarify, some of the free-energy extractors that are not commonly utilized, and for good reasons, are BDSM events, polyamory, swinging and similar fringe activities.