I do have fun at some parties, for example pool staff parties with people I’ve known for years, where all the gossip is relevant to me and I get all the in-jokes. I simply am not extroverted enough to enjoy going to parties where nearly everyone is a stranger, and I have to keep up with my boyfriend’s manic introducing-himself-to-people pace. So the real solution is to track down more parties where I’ll know the people well, but that reduces the number of people I’ll meet, which according to my boyfriend is the point of going to parties.
Your dancing comment is very relevant. I should. I’m currently going swing-dancing once a week, and I should really take a couple of hip-hop classes or something. It would help a lot and I might actually enjoy clubbing then. I do like most of the music they play in clubs.
And no, I’m not busy with things every single evening, but there are an awful lot of days each week when I leave the house first thing in the morning and don’t get home until 9 pm, after having been on my feet or in the pool all day and then biking halfway across the city. Yeah, technically my Saturday nights are free, but I’m exhausted, and when I’m exhausted I get antisocial.
So then I was successful at defying d)? That’s a start, although I realize that I know your life far worse than you do, which is rather obvious. Your day might be to full, but I can’t reliably judge this from afar.
I do have fun at some parties, for example pool staff parties with people I’ve known for years, where all the gossip is relevant to me and I get all the in-jokes. I simply am not extroverted enough to enjoy going to parties where nearly everyone is a stranger, and I have to keep up with my boyfriend’s manic introducing-himself-to-people pace. So the real solution is to track down more parties where I’ll know the people well, but that reduces the number of people I’ll meet, which according to my boyfriend is the point of going to parties.
Your dancing comment is very relevant. I should. I’m currently going swing-dancing once a week, and I should really take a couple of hip-hop classes or something. It would help a lot and I might actually enjoy clubbing then. I do like most of the music they play in clubs.
And no, I’m not busy with things every single evening, but there are an awful lot of days each week when I leave the house first thing in the morning and don’t get home until 9 pm, after having been on my feet or in the pool all day and then biking halfway across the city. Yeah, technically my Saturday nights are free, but I’m exhausted, and when I’m exhausted I get antisocial.
So then I was successful at defying d)? That’s a start, although I realize that I know your life far worse than you do, which is rather obvious. Your day might be to full, but I can’t reliably judge this from afar.