Okay, my point was that if you accept that people are going to try to control you, it’s rather silly to complain about that means.
Not only do I care about what means people use to control me, for any given person asserting that they don’t care what means people use to control them I would be confident in declaring them confused about their own preferences.
But apparently you classify all people who attempt to control you as enemies.
No I don’t, and wouldn’t. Why on earth would I give away my power like that? I’ll do whatever I want in response to people attempting to control me including complying with indifference, ignoring them, gaining more social power so that people are unable to or unlikely to make that kind of moves. Some people doing (or being likely to do) certain things would make them enemies but that is rare and implies giving them a significant degree of respect and attention. It doesn’t happen often.
We agree on the first point! I’m saying some means are worse than others, and shame/guilt is one of the best ones.
As Dave pointed out, we need to taboo “enemy”. “This person’s actions are bothering me; I’ll minimize annoyance” is treating the person as your enemy in the sense I was using it. Not treating them as an enemy is “This person is trying to do good, yet their actions aren’t the ones I think are best; I shall update on what they believe, and tell them what I believe so they can do same; if we still disagree, I’ll minimize total annoyance among us both”. If most people are your enemies by that definition, you’re… not typical audience for social justice rhetoric.
Not only do I care about what means people use to control me, for any given person asserting that they don’t care what means people use to control them I would be confident in declaring them confused about their own preferences.
No I don’t, and wouldn’t. Why on earth would I give away my power like that? I’ll do whatever I want in response to people attempting to control me including complying with indifference, ignoring them, gaining more social power so that people are unable to or unlikely to make that kind of moves. Some people doing (or being likely to do) certain things would make them enemies but that is rare and implies giving them a significant degree of respect and attention. It doesn’t happen often.
We agree on the first point! I’m saying some means are worse than others, and shame/guilt is one of the best ones.
As Dave pointed out, we need to taboo “enemy”. “This person’s actions are bothering me; I’ll minimize annoyance” is treating the person as your enemy in the sense I was using it. Not treating them as an enemy is “This person is trying to do good, yet their actions aren’t the ones I think are best; I shall update on what they believe, and tell them what I believe so they can do same; if we still disagree, I’ll minimize total annoyance among us both”. If most people are your enemies by that definition, you’re… not typical audience for social justice rhetoric.