If he is looking at as many profiles as he can and swiping right a reasonable portion of the time, this should never happen. As a paying customer, a large portion of the women he swipes right on will see his profile. He can view hundreds of profiles a day.
So if you go even one month with zero preliminary matches, and you are neither being super selective or highly unusually ugly, you know you are doing something very wrong with your profile or your profile pictures.
This is extremely embarassing to admit, but it seems like an important anecdote and I’ll say it anyways: in 2022 I spent a sizable amount of money on a “paid dating app service”. What that means is, I got on a call with a dating advisor who asked me questions for a few hours, and took notes. They helped me pick out new clothing, arranged a photographer to take my profile photos (which they checked up on photofeeler), and helped me write and setup profiles on Hinge, OkCupid, Tinder, Bumble, and Coffee Meets Bagel, for which I also elected to get premium subscriptions.
Then the service had another worker use those apps on my behalf full-time, for around ~50 hours a week, swiping on anything that seemed reasonable and then arranging text communication so that I could set up dates. While I was using this service, I checked in regularly to make sure that this worker was doing their job, that they were viewing new profiles, and that the conversations seemed solid.
I didn’t get literally zero matches, but after six months, I had only gone on one date. My advisor was so embarassed by my lack of success that when I told them I had to cancel for obvious reasons, she gave me free extensions for about two and a half months until she finally couldn’t swing that anymore.
I don’t think I’m particularly ugly; I’m around 23 and I’ve been in three relationships, with women who were not model gorgeous but (I think) were fairly attractive, one of which I ended up dating for six years. But I tried the entire motley crew of apps under what seemed like unnaturally strong conditions, and it just didn’t work.
Very funny you mention that. I used the service primarily in San Antonio. However, sometime in the middle of this process, I got frustrated and decided to literally pull census data. The python scripts I wrote, along with lots of anecdotal evidence on the internet, told me that Washington D.C. was the most skewed region in the country for people my age/demographic—a 4:3 female-to-male ratio by some counts. I asked the dating advisor to set me to that location on all the apps for about a month, resolving to just fly there there if I saw an improvement.
This is extremely embarassing to admit, but it seems like an important anecdote and I’ll say it anyways: in 2022 I spent a sizable amount of money on a “paid dating app service”. What that means is, I got on a call with a dating advisor who asked me questions for a few hours, and took notes. They helped me pick out new clothing, arranged a photographer to take my profile photos (which they checked up on photofeeler), and helped me write and setup profiles on Hinge, OkCupid, Tinder, Bumble, and Coffee Meets Bagel, for which I also elected to get premium subscriptions.
Then the service had another worker use those apps on my behalf full-time, for around ~50 hours a week, swiping on anything that seemed reasonable and then arranging text communication so that I could set up dates. While I was using this service, I checked in regularly to make sure that this worker was doing their job, that they were viewing new profiles, and that the conversations seemed solid.
I didn’t get literally zero matches, but after six months, I had only gone on one date. My advisor was so embarassed by my lack of success that when I told them I had to cancel for obvious reasons, she gave me free extensions for about two and a half months until she finally couldn’t swing that anymore.
I don’t think I’m particularly ugly; I’m around 23 and I’ve been in three relationships, with women who were not model gorgeous but (I think) were fairly attractive, one of which I ended up dating for six years. But I tried the entire motley crew of apps under what seemed like unnaturally strong conditions, and it just didn’t work.
Since the sex ratios in cities were mentioned, can you say roughly where you were living while this service was happening?
Very funny you mention that. I used the service primarily in San Antonio. However, sometime in the middle of this process, I got frustrated and decided to literally pull census data. The python scripts I wrote, along with lots of anecdotal evidence on the internet, told me that Washington D.C. was the most skewed region in the country for people my age/demographic—a 4:3 female-to-male ratio by some counts. I asked the dating advisor to set me to that location on all the apps for about a month, resolving to just fly there there if I saw an improvement.
Same results.
Possibly too sensitive, but could you share how the photos performed on Photfeeler? Particularly what percentile attractiveness?
I didn’t actually see the numbers, but I could reupload and check...
I think it would be helpful for helping others calibrate, though obviously it’s fairly personal.