I don’t think that “developing a crush” is a good way to think about the issue.
If a girl that I consider attractive both on a physical and mental level asks me for a date and I’m not in a relationship I go with her on a date.
I don’t need to develop feelings for her before that point that make her special.
To me having a crush suggests thinking about the other person when one isn’t in their presence and wishing to be in their presence. Actively desiring to have a relationship.
If I know that one of my female friends who I consider attractive both on the physical and mental level is in a stable monogamous relationship I’m less likely in a state where I actively desire a relationship with her. If however her circumstances change and she leaves her old relationship and wants to go on a date with me, why should I reject that?
I don’t think that “developing a crush” is a good way to think about the issue.
If a girl that I consider attractive both on a physical and mental level asks me for a date and I’m not in a relationship I go with her on a date. I don’t need to develop feelings for her before that point that make her special.
To me having a crush suggests thinking about the other person when one isn’t in their presence and wishing to be in their presence. Actively desiring to have a relationship.
If I know that one of my female friends who I consider attractive both on the physical and mental level is in a stable monogamous relationship I’m less likely in a state where I actively desire a relationship with her. If however her circumstances change and she leaves her old relationship and wants to go on a date with me, why should I reject that?