I am curious if you find yourself actually paying these debts back, or balancing them against others’ liabilities to you? Do you think most people you interact with in this way come away with the impression that they can realistically ask for something back?
I am curious if you find yourself actually paying these debts back, or balancing them against others’ liabilities to you? Do you think most people you interact with in this way come away with the impression that they can realistically ask for something back?
Nah, I think its mostly in the invisible status ledger in your heads. You sometimes find an apology to be physically painful? That’s a good apology.
You pay them back by reducing your relative status, even a little.