Valuing someone else more than yourself is problematic, as in “you have problems”; see Peter Breggin’s discussion in The Psychology of Freedom. A better way of putting what I think you are trying to say is from Heinlein, “where the other person’s happiness is essential to your own” (paraphrase from multiple sources, especially Stranger and Time Enough for Love).
Valuing someone else more than yourself is problematic, as in “you have problems”; see Peter Breggin’s discussion in The Psychology of Freedom. A better way of putting what I think you are trying to say is from Heinlein, “where the other person’s happiness is essential to your own” (paraphrase from multiple sources, especially Stranger and Time Enough for Love).