Before I respond to your other points, let me pause and ask if I have convinced you that our situation is actually pretty asymmetrical, at least in regards to these examples? If not, I’m disinclined to invest more time.
Oh, the situation is definitely asymmetrical. In more ways than you realize.
However, the important part of my comment was this:
The question is, do you see how silly this looks, from my perspective? Do you see how much this looks like you’re missing the self awareness that is necessary in order to have a hope of noticing when you’re inhabiting a mistaken worldview, which pats itself on the back prematurely?
Because if you do, then perhaps we can laugh about our situation together, and go about figuring out how to break this asymmetry. But if you don’t, or if you try to insist “No, but my perspective really is better supported [according to me]”, the symmetry is already broken.
If you can’t say “Shoot, I didn’t realize that”, or “Heh, yeah I see how it definitely looks more symmetrical than I was giving credit for (even though we both know there are important dissymmetries, and disagree on what they are)”, and instead are going to spend a lot of words insisting “No, but my perspective really is better supported [according to me]”… after I just did you the favor of highlighting how revealing that would be… then again, the symmetry is already broken in the way that shows which one of us is blind to our limitations.
There’s another asymmetry though, which has eluded you:
Despite threatening to write me off, you still take me seriously enough to write a long comment trying to convince me that you’re right, and expect me to engage with it. Since you failed to answer the part that matters, I can’t even take you seriously enough to read it. Ironically, this would have been predictable to you if not for your stance on prediction errors, Lol.
Also, with a prediction error like that, you’re probably not having as much fun as I am, which is a shame. I’m genuinely sorry it turned out the way it did, as I was hoping we’d get somewhere interesting with this. I hope you can resolve your error before it eats at you too much, and that you can keep a sense of humor about things :)
We can be, if you want. And I certainly wouldn’t blame you for wanting to bail after the way I teased you in the last comment.
I do want to emphasize that I am sincere in telling you that I hope it doesn’t eat at you too much, and that I hoped for the conversation to get somewhere interesting.
If you turn out to be a remarkably good sport about the teasing, and want to show me that you can represent how you were coming off to me, I’m still open to that conversation. And it would be a lot more respectful, because it would mean addressing the reason I couldn’t take your previous comment seriously.
No expectations, of course. Sincere best wishes either way, and I hope you forgive me for the tease.
Oh, the situation is definitely asymmetrical. In more ways than you realize.
However, the important part of my comment was this:
If you can’t say “Shoot, I didn’t realize that”, or “Heh, yeah I see how it definitely looks more symmetrical than I was giving credit for (even though we both know there are important dissymmetries, and disagree on what they are)”, and instead are going to spend a lot of words insisting “No, but my perspective really is better supported [according to me]”… after I just did you the favor of highlighting how revealing that would be… then again, the symmetry is already broken in the way that shows which one of us is blind to our limitations.
There’s another asymmetry though, which has eluded you:
Despite threatening to write me off, you still take me seriously enough to write a long comment trying to convince me that you’re right, and expect me to engage with it. Since you failed to answer the part that matters, I can’t even take you seriously enough to read it. Ironically, this would have been predictable to you if not for your stance on prediction errors, Lol.
Also, with a prediction error like that, you’re probably not having as much fun as I am, which is a shame. I’m genuinely sorry it turned out the way it did, as I was hoping we’d get somewhere interesting with this. I hope you can resolve your error before it eats at you too much, and that you can keep a sense of humor about things :)
Guess we’re done, then.
We can be, if you want. And I certainly wouldn’t blame you for wanting to bail after the way I teased you in the last comment.
I do want to emphasize that I am sincere in telling you that I hope it doesn’t eat at you too much, and that I hoped for the conversation to get somewhere interesting.
If you turn out to be a remarkably good sport about the teasing, and want to show me that you can represent how you were coming off to me, I’m still open to that conversation. And it would be a lot more respectful, because it would mean addressing the reason I couldn’t take your previous comment seriously.
No expectations, of course. Sincere best wishes either way, and I hope you forgive me for the tease.