Suppose there actually were perfectly good reasons for the nail to be there? Like, taking it at the most literal level, taking it out would create an open wound with a lot of blood loss, etc., and would make things a lot worse in the short run?
Sometimes people haven’t thought about or actually tried the obvious solutions, and sometimes they have and, for whatever reason, feel as though they’re worse than putting up with the problem. “The situation sucks but it’s still a local optimum, so just let me vent and listen without offering solutions.”
My late wife would insist all the time that “Mr. Fixit is not welcome” because she thought (not without reason) that letting me act would have a good chance of making things worse than they already were.
Suppose there actually were perfectly good reasons for the nail to be there? Like, taking it at the most literal level, taking it out would create an open wound with a lot of blood loss, etc., and would make things a lot worse in the short run?
Sometimes people haven’t thought about or actually tried the obvious solutions, and sometimes they have and, for whatever reason, feel as though they’re worse than putting up with the problem. “The situation sucks but it’s still a local optimum, so just let me vent and listen without offering solutions.”
My late wife would insist all the time that “Mr. Fixit is not welcome” because she thought (not without reason) that letting me act would have a good chance of making things worse than they already were.